Resolving to make it - for real

Here we are, the year 2020! One of the things that makes this so much cooler is that this same combination of numbers also refers to the acuity of eyesight. Twenty-twenty denotes the clarity of vision where both of your eyes see correctly and within a normal range. This year challenges us to ask: Do you have clearness in the way you see life and will conduct it in 2020?  

This new year and that question naturally leads to the thought of New Year Resolutions, which are great as they require an overview of your prior year. If there are areas in your life that you want to improve, you make resolutions. You resolve that you will do that (whatever that is) better in the next year. However, for most people, those resolutions vanish like a vapor within the first three months. But to beat the clock, how can you improve the areas of your life that require attention?

Define. Create resolutions that are based upon understanding the word resolve. The word resolve means to find a solution; to make a firm determination to create a solid course of action. A resolution is the action of the same.

Be specific. What do you want to achieve? Remember, you have to find a solution.

Be strategic. What is you plan to get there? Remember, you have to be firm.

Be prepared. When you lose motivation, what is your Plan B? Remember, you have to be determined.

Find your reason. Deciding that changes are in order are based upon reasons that, although sound, are often not as important to us as we think. This is why resolutions fade so quickly. You may fight to keep them in place for a while, but that fight is gone when you mind decides that there are better things to pay attention to.

I do not have enough beads on my abacus to count the number of times I have worked with someone to help bring them to their goals after repeatedly unable to make the mark. One hundred percent of the time, their motivational points are not in line with their deepest beliefs, so they are derailed.

Let’s look at one of the most popular New Year Resolutions: Going to the gym and or managing weight. According to the International Health, Racquet and Sportsclub Association, (IHRSA), in 2018 there were 71.5 million American health club users (1 in 5 adults). The Statistic Brain Research Institute found that annually, there is a spike in gym memberships during the month of January. Where the general rate of monthly membership application is 8.3%, January sees an increase of 3.7% bringing enrollment to 12%. Eighty-two percent of enrolled members go to the gym less than 1 one time per week and 22% completely stop attending by six months into their membership. Why? Why? Why?

Initially, new year motivation runs high. Many people talk about being healthy from this point on, (especially following the holiday season eating and drinking extravaganza). Health facilities and nutritional programs amp up their advertising and your body is telling you that it is time to take a break from unhealthy habits and join the Now Generation – the healthy and fit generation. You can do this! The holiday cookies are gone, and everything is in line. Then your regular routines keep you busy and going to the gym becomes a much greater effort. Less people are amped up about journeys to better health and the advertising is all but gone. You get swept up in life as you had known it in the year before. Why? Ugh…

Think about it? What is at sake? You already have clothes that size, you know what it is like to be without regular (or any) gym attendance, etc., and oh my Lord, I just want a piece of bread. The bottom-line? You have already been here, and your mind understands the process. It is a brain thing. Your brain knows the deal and is comfortable with what is already understands. The trick is to find out what your mind really wants so you can firmly connect to resolving your concern. Although this applies to any subject matter, using our example, you need a reason that resonates to make you believe that going to the gym is actually a good (long-term) behavior. Figuring out the real motivator (the reason) is the way to find long-lasting results. I see this in my office all of the time, and yes, I regularly do this with myself.

So, happy new year! I hope this year is filled with experiences that bring you happiness, satisfaction and the growth that you want in your life.